Feeling like you’re stuck in a rut is never good. It leaves you feeling dissatisfied with your life and even helpless at times. I spent the first half of this year stuck in a rut and feeling sorry for myself so I thought I would share with you some of the tips I found to be helpful when it came to getting out of it.
At the beginning of the year I was really unhappy with where my life was headed (or rather not headed), I was stressed about my weight, felt anxious most of the time, lost my passion for blogging, and was just generally feeling sorry for myself most of the time. I didn’t feel like myself and I knew something needed change but I felt overwhelmed and didn’t know where to start. I felt like so much needed to change in order for me to be happy with my life that there was no way I could ever achieve my goals. That wasn’t true though, as small changes really can make all the difference.
While of course I still have moments where I don’t like the way I look or I feel anxious, things are improving and I no longer feel like I’m stuck in this rut that I can’t seem to get out of.
Here are the 7 little things that helped me:
Allow yourself time to wallow
We often feel the need to suppress our negative feelings when they come on and think by shutting them out it will lead to us feeling better. I find if I allow myself a little time to wallow, even if it’s just for 30 minutes, it allows me to accept that it’s okay to feel the way I do and move on from it. For me, shutting out those negative feelings is a temporary fix and if I don’t give myself time to be sad about whatever is bothering me, I actually spend more time over the span of the next few days experiencing those negative feelings in waves which isn’t healthy. Setting a time to wallow lets me know I can feel how I want for the allotted time and then I know I need to move on from it.
Make a list of what you want to change
If more than one thing is bothering you, which is likely the case, it can feel overwhelming when you start thinking about all of the changes you need to make in order to better your life. Writing a list of what is bothering you will help you determine what aspects of your life need to change and it will also help you pinpoint when you started to get into your rut to perhaps avoid feeling stuck in one again.
Set some realistic goals
Likely the list you made about things you would like to change consisted of pretty general ideas, which can make it feel challenging to know where to start. Things like losing weight or being better with money are broad terms so by coming up with little steps that will help you achieve those big goals will make them seem a lot less daunting. Changing too much too soon is going to likely leave you feeling stressed so by setting smaller goals that you can achieve will make you instantly feel like you’re doing something to get out of your rut while not feeling too overwhelmed.
If money stresses you out perhaps you could create a budget for yourself or set up a savings account at your bank. If you want to lose weight perhaps committing to 3 half hour workouts a week and bringing your lunch to work are small changes you can make to improve that area of your life. It’s important to know what your overall goals are but it’s just as important to come up with a realistic action plan.
I hate exercising but there’s no denying what it does for my mental health. Exercise gives me a chance to unplug and take care of myself. I find it helps put me in a better mood and even think through the things that are bothering me that day. Whether I’m feeling stressed, anxious, upset, etc. working out always helps me deal with my emotions. It sometimes takes a lot of motivation to get me into the gym but I never leave regretting that I went. Also, with losing weight being one of my big overall goals, exercise not only helps my mental health, but it’s also helping me achieve that goal as well so I feel as though I am being productive when it comes to bettering my life.
Clear out your wardrobe
For me, cleaning out my wardrobe can be a really great way to get out of a rut. I find that when I am in a rut I often stop caring about my style and am unhappy with my clothes and overall appearance. By clearing out my closet I can donate pieces that I no longer wear and I am also reminded of pieces I forgot I had; both of which feel really good. When I discover old favourites I forgot I had I am immediately re-inspired by my closet and begin to feel better about my appearance.
Stop comparing yourself to others
This one is hard in the age of social media; but comparing yourself to others will never make you feel better. I am guilty of this but it is something I am trying to be better about it. I find I compare myself more to those directly around me than people I don’t know so I try and recognize when it starts happening and stop. Everyone is on a different path in life. It can be easy to get jealous of those who have what you want, feeling bad about yourself because you aren’t where they are in life won’t fix anything and is a waste of time and energy. You have to trust the timing of your own journey.
Be your own cheerleader
When you feel stuck in a rut, trying to boost your confidence is likely the last thing on your mind but is so important. Sometimes giving yourself a pep talk is necessary and can instantly boost your mood. We’re often so hard on ourselves and it is important to take time to appreciate ourselves instead.
Do you have any other tips when it comes to getting out of a rut?